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Open Question: A question regarding stepchildren?

Sun, 04 Nov 2007 23:31:19 GMT
My husband has a son that has lived with his parents for the last 4 years.He's 7.He wants his child to move in with us now. I am against it.I know this sounds awful but I have a child not even 2 I have to think about.My husband hasn't even seen him in 4 years.He doesn't know him anymore.Bringing that child here could devastate him emotionally;it'd be like being forced to live with strangers.Children who are emotionally traumatized act out,sometimes violently.He has already had problems with violence even at age 7(stabbed a classmate with a pencil, smacked another's head off the wall).My husband's parents are terrible people who have talked sh!t about me&my husband to this child for 4 years though they've never even met me.He came to stay with us when he was 3 & when he went back to them,they actually convinced him I hit him when I never touched him! I feel that bringing this child into our home would be a mistake.My husband is hurt & angry.I can't help how I feel. Should I reconsider?
The main problem is that the grandparents are such terrible people. If the child stays with them, he could grow up to have the same problems as my husband or his brothers and nobody wants that. On the other hand, taking him from them would be basically ripping the kid from who he knows as his parents (not literally; he knows they are his grandparents but they take care of him, etc.) and that could be worse. I'm afraid it is just too late altogether. And I couldn't bear if the child hurt my baby because he is spoiled and emotionally disturbed.
Actually, I don't just have one child. I have three. Two girls who are 6 and 11 and a son who is almost 2. I don't worry he'd hurt the older ones; they can take care of themselves. I worry for my little one.
*Sigh* I did not mention the older two because I don't worry for them as much. It's the baby I worry about. He can't talk and if my stepson did something to him, he couldn't tell anyone.
I'm just afraid of doing the wrong thing altogether: what if I bring him here and he hurts my baby? What if we bring him here and the emotional damage is so bad that it screws him up forever? What if we leave him there because it's the only home he's ever known and he loves them and it ends up worse? It is such a catch-22 that I don't know what to do.
Oh, I agree. It is totally my husband's fault for leaving him in the first place. Actually we tried to have him live with us right when my husband first moved here but he was so miserable that my husband took him back even though I told him he should not do that. He was 3 then and by now he'd be over it and be adjusted. I just don't want to screw this kid up anymore than he already is by taking him from the only parents he knows and I don't want any of the other kids hurt, either but I also don't want to leave the poor thing with these horrible people. It's been too long already.

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